August 2, 2010

Etiquette Lessons?

I need your opinion!!!
I created little cards to stick into our wedding invitation envelopes.
Vistaprint had a special on business cards so I ordered them as "business cards"
250 for a grand total of $4....
These little cards have our wedding registries listed on them.
I think it makes perfect sense, but i'm questioning now wether to include them or not.
In my opinion, when I am going to a wedding I like to know where the couple registered.
Etiquette states that you should never include your registries in the invitation because its rude and
assuming.....They say that people should just find out through word of mouth if they want to know.
What are your thoughts?
To include? Not to include?
Did you include them?

Thanks!!!
Jenni

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16 comments:

Davanie said...

I normally don't follow proper etiquette rules very closely, but this one grates me the wrong way for some reason. I don't think you should include the registry info in the invite because it seems (to me) like you're telling them to get you a gift.

Do you have a website? If you do, I'd put the information there. Otherwise, yes, I think if people want to know if you're registered they should find out by word of mouth.

Chic 'n Cheap Living said...

I'm not sure though I totally think a registry works for the couple and guests.
Do you have it on your website? Many couples i knew put it on their website, but not in their invites (one couple did this of the 15 or so weddings we've been invited to).

Laura said...

I love the invitations you designed, but you should skip the registry cards. If your friends and family want to know where you're registered, they will find out. (Just make sure your parents and bridesmaids know.) Everyone else will pick out a gift they want you to have or give you money. I think the registry cards essentially say, "We want you to come and this is where I'd like my present from," so I think they're a little on the tacky side.

Meghan said...

I am not sure what the protocol is here, but I did not include it. It was included on my bridal shower invitations and also on our wedding website, but not on the actual wedding invite. Where I live, it's more common to give monetary gifts at the wedding itself, so no one really asked!

About Aimee said...

I would include it. I always look in the invitations my friends send to see where they are registered. I get annoyed when it isnt easily accesable information. I also that that is should be included because people always want to get the couple something they acatually want... not something you THINK they want. I say, include it. If people think its tacky, so what?! Its your wedding.. do what you want!

SG to SP said...

I'm in the camp of not including it. If you have a wedding website you can include a card in your invitations with that information which will lead them to your registry information. That's what we did. Only you know your guests and what they may think of it, some probably won't care other (older) guests might be put off by it.

Gwen said...

Personally I wouldn't include them. I'm dealing with a bride that expects people to buy her gifts (like seriously flat out said it) and there is nothing worse. One day I'll tell you the full story. If you've already ordered them and can't cancel you can give them to your MOH or bridesmaids to include in the shower invites. Or maybe change the card to show your wedding website so they have something to remind them to look for photos after the wedding. XOXO

Jenn said...

I think the card is super cute but I would have to say not to include it.. Although it makes total sense to since people go look for your registeries, some people might take it the wrong way..

I agree with some of the other comments about the website

Good luck

Jules said...

Ditto - on a bridal shower I think it's okay, but I tend to say leave it out of the invite. Website or word of mouth.

carrie1 said...

That's a sticky one... although it may seem "greedy", I too like looking at invites to see where they are registered.

But I also agree that if you have a website it's better to post it on there. But then do you put a little card in the invites/save the dates stating that you have a wedding web page and to check out additional info?

Lace said...

I say it's fine to include registry info in shower invitations, but leave it out of the wedding invitation. They are MIGHTY cute though!

brittany said...

i agree to not include it. i'm not because i don't want people to feel like they have to get us a gift, we really just want them to attend! they are so cute though :(

Shannon said...

Include - most ppl will be bringing a gift and its nice to know where you're registered at.

Kristin said...

Totally include!! Its only normal to bring a gift and people need to know where to shop. I would def include it

Nicole said...

The BF and I were talking about this TODAY! we didnt know what was the protocol! I personally love to know where people register, who wants to buy a bunch of crap people dont want!? But it looks like thats being "greedy" who doesnt go to a wedding without a gift!? Lame. Anyway I say include it! =D

Anonymous said...

Omg- No no NO. Those little inserts are for showers only, it is beyond tacky to put them in an invitation. You're inviting people to celebrate with you and, while most people do, you should never expect a gift from your guests.
It's really easy now for your guests to go to the Knot or Weddingchannel.com and search the databases for your registries, and those who don't know to do that will likely ask your family or just write a check.